Which one are YOU? 4 Coping Mechanisms For Stress
Everyone,
As promised, here are the 4 primary coping mechanisms for Stress as defined by Virginia Satir.
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We all slip into each one of these from time to time but each of us has a PRIMARY one we revert to when we are stressed and feel un-resourceful. Try to see which one you tend to slip into the most:
Placater – The Placater is first of all concerned about how they will be perceived. Their center of attention is on themselves and particularly on their perception of how others see them.
Their response to stress is largely to avoid it. If there are any ‘uncomfortable truths’, then they will generally try to avoid talking about them (and may in fact go to extraordinary lengths to avoid any such confrontation).
Blamer – The Blamer feels powerless and uncared-for. All alone in the world, they feel that nobody will ever do anything for them.
When they feel stressed, their feelings of isolation increase further. As a result, they compensate by trying to take charge, bluffing their way out, hiding their aloneness in attempted leadership.
Computer – The Computer feels exposed when showing emotions, perhaps because they have difficulty controlling them or they may have been criticized as a child for showing emotion. Men, in particular, tend to be Computers.
To avoid having to confront emotion, when faced with stress, the Computer resorts to logic, becoming super-rational about the situation and working hard to appear super-cool on the outside (although they may be churning like mad on the inside).
Distracter – The Distracter easily becomes confused by stressful situations. Instead of taking some positive action, they are not sure what they should do and so grasp at straws.
In practice, they may well respond to the stress by shifting between the three previous types of Placater, Blamer and Computer. In doing so, they are trying in vain to find some solace in different practices.
In the next email, I’ll tell you about the Leveler (which is the ideal way of responding to stress and uncertainty)
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Enjoy!
-Robert Harrison, Director
Bay Area Hypnosis Center
www.BayAreaHypnosisCenter.com – Hypnosis for Weight Loss, Smoking Cessation & Habit Control
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How To Read People…
Quick reminder: the Hypnosis Level I Beginners course (where you’ll learn how to READ people) will begin on Saturday July 31st from 9am-12pm.
For more info & to register go here: http://bayareahypnosiscenter.com/learn-hypnosis/
One of the most common experiences for a new client in my office is the READ I do during the screening. Within moments of meeting the person I begin to tell them exactly what their coping mechanisms for stress are, how specifically they process information, and how they get stuck in personal and professional endeavors. In fact, the most common response I get besides the dropped jaw is this… “It’s like you totally know me. I’ve never had anyone ever know that about me before. How did you do that?” Occasionally, I even get, “Are you a mind reader?”
Though this may seem magical at the time, I can assure you it’s the result of knowing how to READ people very quickly. Years and years of experience help, giving a good hypnotherapist, consultant, manager, or leader an intuitive ability about people. Profiling tools like DISC, Meyer-Briggs, Kolbe, Enneagram, etc can also be helpful. But if you ask my clients, they will tell you I have an uncanny ability to read almost anyone in an instant or from just a few words of conversation. I can tell them how their relationships are going and what pitfalls will or have come up along the way in moments. I can quickly identify how people hold themselves back professionally, why they start and then stop projects, why they sabotage themselves, where they are likely to stumble along the way, how they have done it over and over again in the past, and a lot more. It looks like mind reading – but it isn’t. It is a teachable skill and it doesn’t take years to learn.
This builds instant rapport and trust with every client as they hear the READ and confirm it in their own mind. If you are in management, sales, a leadership position, or want to be good at Hypnosis, you want to have these skills in your tool belt. These skills give you what you need to know how to successfully navigate clients from start to finish and how to prevent pitfalls from occurring in the process. The more accurately you can profile people you want to help the easier it will be to help them – plain and simple. If you are in a management or leadership position, it will arm you with the information you need and the formula to motivate your team members, if you are in sales it will give you the essential information you need to help them make a decision and commitment with your offering (assuming it’s a good fit). In personal relationships, if you can understand how your partner really processes information, you’ll know how to access their love strategy and give them what they want in a way they get. That means – a better relationship.
All of this key information will allow you to help others more effectively. In a business situation, where there is mutual self-interest, it will make it easy to dovetail outcomes so that both you and the other person is very happy and satisfied with the transaction – now and later.
In the next email I’m going to talk about the 4 major coping mechanisms for stress – the blamer, placater, computer, and distractor. When you get stressed and anxious, you’ll always slip into on of these four coping patterns of behavior. Doing this can cost you relationships, money, and even your job – so you’ll want to learn which one you tend to do and what you can do about it in the future.
To learn how to read people and get the professional edge over your competition make sure you register while you still can for the training on Saturday July 31st at 9am. It’s a cheap and fast training but the information will serve you for a life-time.
For more information & to register now goto: http://bayareahypnosiscenter.com/learn-hypnosis/
Enjoy!
-Robert Harrison, Director
www.BayAreaHypnosisCenter.com – Hypnosis for Weight Loss, Smoking Cessation & Habit Control